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As women in business, we often hold big dreams in our hearts. We strive to achieve more, grow our impact, and live in alignment with our deepest purpose. But too often, we can find ourselves stuck in what Dan Sullivan calls The Gap—that space between where we are now and where we think we should be.
In The Gap, we measure our progress against ideals and future goals. It’s a place where we’re constantly chasing, feeling like we’re never quite enough, and stuck in a cycle of “I’ll be happy when…”. What I realised personally was that the goalpost is always moving as I grow and change.
I found myself stuck in an unhealthy pattern of always comparing myself to my ‘future self’ and coming up short every time. This led to feelings of shame and generally not feeling like I was enough – which is part of my wounding being retriggered. Yikes – who wants to live in this place – not me 😊
But here’s the beautiful shift I want to invite you into today:
What if instead of focusing on The Gap, we began to live in The Gain?
What is The Gain?
Living in The Gain means acknowledging and celebrating how far you’ve come instead of focusing on how far you still have to go. It’s about being in the present moment, measuring yourself against your own progress, and celebrating every step as a victory.
When we live in The Gain, we step into a state of abundance and gratitude. This shift activates the feminine energy within us—the energy of flow, intuition, and magnetism.
How does The Gain connect to feminine energy?
As women, our true power lies in our ability to receive, create, and attract effortlessly. When we’re in The Gain, we let go of the constant striving and controlling (which is a masculine energy) and begin to trust ourselves, our intuition, and the flow of life.
From this place, we stop chasing success and start drawing it toward us with ease.
Why is this important for your business?
As a female entrepreneur, shifting into The Gain is more than just a mindset shift—it’s a powerful way to run your business from your natural feminine energy. This shift will:
Activate your inner magnetism, making it easier for you to attract aligned clients and opportunities.
Allow you to make decisions based on your intuition rather than stress or over-analysis.
Help you celebrate your wins, big or small, and build unshakable confidence from within.
Free you from the endless pressure to be more and help you operate from a place of joy and creativity.
Here’s how you can start:
Take a moment today to reflect on how far you’ve come in your business. What milestones have you reached? What challenges have you overcome? How have you grown as a woman, leader, and entrepreneur?
Hit reply and share with me – I would love to celebrate you too!
Permit yourself to celebrate your progress—this is the energy of The Gain. And when you’re in this state, you become naturally magnetic to the clients, resources, and opportunities that are meant for you.
Remember, you are enough right now.
I’m so excited to see you shift into this powerful space and watch your business—and your life—flourish from this abundant, feminine energy.
Much love, Kylie xxx
